I’ve been quiet on my social media and posting content for a couple of days – sorry!
My car was in a bit of a crash, so I’ve been busy getting the car sorted out, as well as organising an upcoming modeling workshop for under 16’s and looking after my little darling of course.
Here are photos of the damage to my car:
It obviously could have been A LOT worse, but it still hurt my little heart because it was brand new just two and a half months ago.
An unfortunate incident, especially as I wasn’t the person driving my car when the crash happened… but it got me thinking about how someone else driving my practically brand new car and causing damage to it, and how much it got to me, can apply to a lot of things in our lives. Have you ever said yes against your best judgement? Have you ever agreed to something you don’t feel truly comfortable with just because it’s easier to do that than have to argue your point?
Well, the truth is – I knew the person driving my car was a very careless driver, and person in general, I’ve seen it for myself, I’m not even sure they should have a license. But until now, I hadn’t put my foot down and told them that they cannot drive my car. Some people may say that I’m too nice, I’m not too nice, the reason is that I actually couldn’t be bothered with the disturbance in my peace that saying no would create, so I was actually being selfish by not saying no and of course setting myself up for more hassle in the long run. The exact same damage was done to my previous car, which was a second hand one and it hurt, but nowhere near as much as this did. Why? Well if you’ve read my book you’ll know that I rewarded myself with something fairly expensive in recognition of my strength through business and in life, to motivate myself to keep achieving my goals. That was my car. That’ll be why it got to me so much.
So why am I sharing this? I guess that this is my way of saying that, although you should forgive people (because otherwise it will only hold you back) don’t make the same mistake again. It’s similar to people being horrible to you, disrespecting you or bullying you – forgive them, for your sake, but don’t let them back for more. Protect yourself and your surroundings from things that have happened in the past – if you keep doing the same things, you’ll get the same results.
You can do everything you can to improve your life, but if you have the wrong people, things or events happening around you and you let things stay the same then your hard work improving your life, career, mindset or whatever your goal of improvement is, will have been partially in vain. It’ll throw you back a few levels. And you deserve BETTER than that!
SO – BE STRONG, SPEAK UP IF YOU WANT TO SAY NO INSTEAD OF YES, PREPARE FOR THE DRAMA OR JUST WALK AWAY FROM IT. THE TRUTH IS THAT PEOPLE WHO ARE TRULY SUPPOSED TO BE IN YOUR LIFE, WILL RESPECT YOUR DECISIONS, THEY MIGHT NOT AGREE, OR BE HAPPY WITH THEM, BUT THEY WON’T CREATE HASSLE FOR YOU OVER IT.
Lots of love,